First I must acknowledge my editor and dear friend, Jude Berman, who has kept me going and writing
when my own avoidance and island nature take over. Without her guidance and gentle pressure, this
book would certainly not have come to be. I have many mentors in my life to whom I am indebted:
Allan Schore, Marion Solomon, Stephen Porges, Pat Ogden, Harville Hendrix, Ellyn Bader, John
Bradshaw, and John Gottman, to name just a few.